what extent do you:
focused on what the person speaking to you
is saying rather than rehearsing your response?
exploring different ways of looking at the
off phones, laptops, the TV, etc. and all
distractions when meeting/talking with people?
everyone your equal as a thinker?
aware of your reactions at a feeling level
to whatever is being said to you?
as much accurate information as you have
to support the thinking those around you?
control of your time and energies so that
you are not unduly rushed?
on the basis that 'better than' does not
necessarily mean 'best'?
feelings as facts requiring serious consideration?
from telling people what to do and how to
more questions of people than you offer
solutions when they have a problem to solve?
that the people around you get an equal
opportunity to speak?
the views of people from different fields
or backgrounds before making important decisions?
others to consider alternative possibilities
in their thinking?
time to think as a matter of course?
the people around you what you appreciate
your feelings about issues as well as what
your eyes on the person who is speaking
that decisions are made on the basis of
what is known to be true?
a conscious effort to rearrange your physical
surroundings to make them more conducive
to relaxed thinking?
others to be themselves and not to conform
to your way of doing things?
others to question their own assumptions?
for ways to build the confidence and self
esteem of those around you?
your confidence in the presence of people
in authority or more senior than you?
Remain mindful of your own physical comfort
needs when meeting others?
people to finish their own sentences rather
than jumping in to finish them on their
to notice what is already good in a situation
as well as what could be improved?
and attempt to minimise competitive behaviour
between friends and colleagues?
back from trying to solve other peoples'
others to challenge your point of view?
encourage others to say what they really
time for others when they need to talk?
thanks, both written and verbal, at every
'what if' questions of the people around
that you do not interrupt others when they
conscious steps to maintain a relaxed presence?
a conscious effort to ensure that your position/authority/grade
does not stop others from telling you what
they really think?
other peoples' physical comfort as important
when they are with you?
calm and relaxed when someone is openly
expressing how they are feeling?
for the strengths in those around you rather
than the weaknesses?